Tips You Can Use To Help Those Facing Serious Illness
When someone we know faces a serious illness, most of us find it hard to know what to do. Feeling helpless and uncertain, we say “If you need anything, just call,” but we know that’s not really enough.
Here is a collection of truly useful ideas you can use to show your concern and support for people who are close to you:
Touch me – A simple squeeze of the hand tells me you still care
Call and tell me you’re bring over my favorite dish – Bring food in disposable containers so I won’t worry about returning them
Don’t avoid me – Be the friend…the loved one you’ve always been
Watch my children – While I take a little time with my loved one. My children also may need a little vacation from my illness
Share emotions with me – Cry with me when I cry and laugh with me when I laugh. Don’t be afraid to share these emotions with me. Pain isolates. Help me reconnect with others
Take me out for a pleasure trip – But know my limitations
Call for my shopping list – And make a special delivery to my home
Before you visit – Call to let me know, but don’t be afraid to visit. I need you. I can get lonely
Help me celebrate holidays (and life) – By decorating my hospital room or home, or by bringing me flowers or other natural treasures
Help my family. Invite them out – Take them places. I am sick, but they may be suffering also. Offer to come and stay with me to give my loved ones a break
Be creative – Bring me a book of thoughts, taped music, a poster for my wall, cookies to share with my family and friends
Let’s talk about it – Maybe I need to talk about my illness. Find out by asking me, “Do you feel like talking about it?
Don’t always feel we have to talk – Sitting quietly together is fine
Help be feel good about my looks
Can you take me and/or my children somewhere? – I may need transportation to a treatment, to the store or to my physician
Please include me in decision making – I’ve been robbed of so many things. Please don’t deny me a chance to make decisions in my family or in my life
Bring me a positive attitude – It’s catching. Help me respect reality
What’s new in the news? – Magazines, photos, newspapers and verbal reports keep me from feeling the world is passing me by
Could you help me with some cleaning? -During my illness, my family and I still face dirty dishes, dirty clothes and a dirty house
Water my flowers
Just send a card – To let me know you care
Pray for me – And share your faith with me
Tell me how you’d like to help me – And, when I agree please do so
Talk to me about the future – Tomorrow, next week, next year. Hope is so important to me
Tell me about support groups – So I can share with others